It is an unfortunate fact that all too often people are influenced by consensus rather than by what is right. A person completely confident in his or her own convictions can dismiss the contradictory opinions aired by others, be they neighbors, acquaintances, or the media. Only those who do not measure their own worth in terms of the approbation or censure by others are truly free to evaluate an issue calmly, logically -- and on its own merits.
But while many issues are no more than harmless trivialities, remarkable more for their sheer fatuity than merit, there is a current issue of crucial significance being treated casually. That issue is family planning, and has become so widespread as to affect all but the strongest individuals. Its ill effects cannot be overstated, for it involves issues no less than marital harmony, mental stability, and the entire husband-wife relationship. Ironically, it masquerades under the guise of benevolence, proclaiming concern for the well-being of a married couple, and indeed the entirety of mankind. Many arguments are put forward for limiting the size of the family but all rest upon the same underlying assumption: to do so is good for both the parents as individuals, and humanity as a whole. How true this is we shall presently see.
It must be clearly stated that Halachah, Jewish Law, strictly forbids contraception except in special circumstances -- and only after consultation with competent Halachic authorities. But there is empirical evidence that simple unquestioning adherence to the Halachah is no longer necessary on this issue. Although the Halachah overrules human logic, in this case they are consonant; human experience attests to the wisdom of the Torah command. It is our intention to examine some of the objections raised against having more than a limited number of children, dealing primarily with those of an individual nature.[1]
One of the strongest objections is fear of financial inability to support children. Naturally, parents want the best for their children, and fear of being unable to provide adequately is a powerful deterrent to having them. This is a genuine concern -- but based on an assumption which springs from a weakness of faith and presumptuousness. One who fears that he will not be able to provide is assuming that it is completely through his efforts that he does succeed. True, Torah requires that man work to provide for his family. But it is a primary tenet of Judaism that all success comes from G-d, that it is His blessings that give sustenance, not one’s own efforts alone. It is G-d Who provides for all of His creatures; another mouth will not overburden Him.
An appraisal of motives might be in order. Is it possible that the concern of financial limitations may be a rationalization for living in a particular lifestyle? Contemporary society demands a standard that is, to say the least, profligate. Is it possible that we have adopted indulgences as necessities and this causes the worry about financial means? It is time to assess priorities to avoid regarding indulgence of trivial desires as necessity and a reason for not having children.
Besides financial worries, a serious concern is the personal toll that raising children exacts from parents. It has become almost axiomatic in today’s society that a goal in life is personal pleasure and enjoyment, and the pursuit thereof. If children prove an obstacle to a carefree existence, then children will have to go. And who can deny that they constitute an immense personal burden in terms of energy, freedom of movement and time, not to mention the emotional toll they exact.
But the real problem is not one of sufficient personal resources, but rather one of priorities. In many other areas -- careers, personal goals etc. -- people do manage to put up with great inconvenience and sacrifice to attain their object -- if it is considered important enough. The real problem is that children are regarded not as sources of joy and happiness, but as burdens and impediments to pleasure and "fulfillment."
This is not the authentic Jewish view. Historically our ancestors did not think so; to them, children were the greatest nachas possible, and the more the better. The first Mitzvah in the Torah is be fruitful and multiply. To rear a child, to initiate him or her into the Jewish faith, to educate children in Torah and Mitzvos -- this is true nachas. Being childless, no matter how much freedom it allows, cannot compare in rewards.
Let us be fair in our evaluation, applying the same foresight and long range planning that dictates not having children, to the problems it generates; look at the other side of the coin. The pleasure of freedom from the encumbrance of children for a few years dissolves into -- what? The growing emptiness of middle age? The loneliness of old age? All too swiftly carefree youth crumbles into the bleakness of the later childless years. The immense satisfaction and comfort of children and grandchildren are denied by a few years of fleeting freedom. That is shortsightedness; that is lack of planning! Looking too far ahead? No more than those who look twenty years or more into the future when worrying about their financial ability to rear and educate children.
But, the argument continues. Granted that having children is a fine, even beautiful thing; but at least give people the choice as to when to have children. Can people be faulted for wishing to space their children, to have a break between one child and the next? Or for delaying their first child until they feel emotionally and financially able? Seemingly logical, certainly appealing. But while it is an axiom of Judaism that man has free choice, do not confuse this with unlimited opportunity to choose. A child is not a faucet, to be turned on at will. No power on earth can guarantee the birth of a baby. That decision, that power, is G-d’s, and G-d’s alone, the third Partner in every child. The possible blessing so disdained earlier may not be available later. Take His blessings when He offers them, gratefully, and rest assured that this third Partner is benevolent, all-knowing, Who can be trusted to know the best time.
Bluntly: it is presumptuous for anyone to see herself as the final authority determining life. Attempts to regulate life based solely on man’s limited understanding are foolhardy, and the stakes are too high to risk the unpredictable.
An altruistic objection is put forward by women who wish to have more time to devote to worthy causes and good works. This sentiment is predicated on a false assumption. A woman s worth is not to be measured in terms that society dictates. Charitable causes are undoubtedly worthy pursuits, but no less worthy is child-raising. Who has determined that charity is superior to rearing children? Not Torah. A child granted by G-d indicates what must take precedence. Furthermore: endeavors in such pursuits in the limited time she does have, will be blessed with more than enough success to compensate for time spent in raising a child. And who can know what great things that child, raised with the loving care of his parents, will ultimately achieve?
A final argument is that repeated child-bearing can have a detrimental effect on a woman’s beauty. Our sages have stressed the importance of beauty in Jewish women, both spiritual and physical. Hence, runs the argument, and it is a legitimate one, it would be wise to refrain from too many children to ensure the continuing affection between husband and wife.
Torah values however are not identical with today’s mores. A woman’s beauty is a private matter, confined to herself and her husband. Modesty, a commodity so rare today, is the highest term of approbation that can be bestowed upon a Jewish woman. When that modesty is kept, when that inner beauty is retained, no amount of child-bearing can damage the relationship between a man and wife. Indeed the reverse is true: the fulfillment of this greatest of Mitzvos -- to be fruitful -- ultimately leads to a more enduring relationship between the couple. Her beauty becomes deeper, more enduring.
But all these are theoretical points, arguments and counter-arguments, objections, products of man’s ingenious mind. But experience teaches too. Statistics reveal some sobering facts. Precisely in the past few generations, when the concept of family planning has become so wide-spread, we see the highest rates of marital discord. Disharmony in the home, separations, divorces, ugly quarrels, tension, nervous frustrations, psychiatric disorders -- the problems are legion, matched only by their severity. [Parenthetically, there is the not unrelated point of financial problems. The substantial amounts of money spent in such cases seeking relief, paid to psychiatrists etc., could well have been put to more healthy uses.] Compare now with previous generations, especially in Jewish homes, where family planning was unthinkable. The divorce rate was infinitesimal, respect and harmony between spouses legendary in the eyes of the world. And let us not forget the effect on the children, growing up in a household of peace and harmony and shared ideals and values.
The reason for the gulf between generations is simple. Man was created in a certain way, and attempts to interfere must lead to disruptions. The human body is infinitely intricate. Disrupting its natural functions inevitably causes problems. Family planning, presented as helpful and logical, causes many of the marital problems so prevalent today.
In conclusion, let us cite a striking narrative in the Torah. We are all descendants of the four matriarchs of our people -- Sarah, Rivkah, Rochel and Leah. Each was distinguished for her particular gifts, each expressed her self-worth in different ways. Yet there was one common bond between them, one thing which united them together: each longed for children, a yearning that knew no limits. The Torah, normally so sparing of its words, describes in detail the lengths to which they went to achieve this end. They were the archetypes of all Jewish women, and we would do well to heed their lesson. Birth control, family planning -- call it what you will -- is a fad that has Crippled Jewish women for too long. True self-worth, true identity, does not belong to those who blindly follow the dictates of contemporary society. Children, many children, are the greatest gift and blessing G-d can bestow upon us; do not let imagined obstacles stand in the way of enjoying these blessings. And then, "with our youth and our elders, our sons and our daughters," we will go joyfully to greet our righteous redeemer, speedily in our times.

Train, produce national champions- Farnazo

“We have what it takes to train and produce national champions in the different events and compete for this matter in the Regional Schools Press Conference”

Thus, spoke Dr.Allan Farnazo, OIC Regional Director of Region XII during the opening program of 3^rdRegional Integrated Competition (RIC) at Lagao gymnasium, General Santos City, October 23.

“In this year’s RIC we are also doing some of the first, for instance in the Regional Schools Press Conference (RSPC) category we shall also be doing a competition between and among school paper advisers not only the students” he said.

Farnazo told the participants that a good adviser must has the capacity to produce the calibre of national champions and be able to send representatives in the national tilt.

“I expect that as you compete against one another do not focus on that only. First, that you have to focus on is challenge yourself to be better than your previous performance”

He claimed that it was the first requirement in any competition, and the regional and division offices were willing to provide the most needed support.

“May we produce the best representatives of region XII who will eventually represent our region to the national competition-contestants who are sure of bringing honour inspite of our collective spirits as a region” he concluded.

The speech delivered by Dr. Allan Farnazo focussed on the theme, “Celebrating the Genius in every Child, Building the Generation of the 21^st Century Skills”

                                                                                                              - Chester Ian Pineda

            

Farnazo addressed in RIC’13

            Showing confidence, intelligence, and professionalism, Dr. Allan Farnazo, OIC- Regional Director of Region XII addressed participants during the opening program of 3^rd Regional Integrated Competitions (RIC) at Lagao gym, General Santos City, October 23.

            “In this year’s RIC, we are also doing some of the firsts, for instance in the Regional Schools Press Conference (RSPC) category we shall also be doing competition between and among school paper advisers not only the students.” he said.

            Farnazo emphasized the participants that a good adviser must have the capacity to train and produce caliber of national champions and be able to send representatives in the national tilt. “Ang magaling na estudyante is equal to magaling na adviser” he added.

            “Do not focus on the competition against one another, first that you have to focus on is challenge yourself to be better than your previous performance.”

            He claimed that it was the first requirement in any competition, and the regional and division offices were willing to provide the most needed support.

            “May we produce the best representatives of Region XII who will eventually represent our region to the national competition- contestants who are sure of bringing honor in spite of our collective spirits as a region.” He concluded.

            The speech delivered by Dr. Allan Farnazo focused on the theme, “Celebrating the Genius in Every Child, Building the Generation of the 21^st Century Skills.”

By Chester Ian S. Pineda

DepEd backsAnti- drug campaign

            DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION- Raphael C. Fontanilla PhD., CEO VI, Schools Division Superintendent of South Cotabato supported the Regional Anti- Drug Abuse Rally (RADAR) of the Red Star production in coordination of Youth Power against Drugs at South Cotabato gymnasium and Cultural Center, Koronadal City, September 8, 2013.

            The said RADAR was with the Anti- Drug Abuse Musical Stageplay (ADAMS) featuring John Manalo and PhytosKyriakou, both from ABS-CBNthat were in a caravan set- up in the entire region.

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LINHS population hikes by 1.74%

            Mrs. Florencia I. Carmen, Principal III of Libertad National High School proclaimed the students’ enrolmentfor this school year showingan increase of 1.74% during the PTA general assembly meeting on June 28.

            Last school year 2012- 2013,Registrar’s office had noted 2,361 student enrolees indicating 41 

           

           

            

CLUB NEWSBITS!

Winninglogo serves KAGUMAFIL’s identity

KAMAFIL, now Kapisanan ng mga Guro at Mag- aaral sa Filipino (KAGUMAFIL) had finally has its official logo that depictsthe importance of national language in communication that shelters the future of Filipinos toward development.

In line with the contests organized by the Filipino Department, Kevin Paul Tablada, elected club president won the first place in logo making contest in which his masterpiece served to be the official club identity from now on.

On the other hand, theKAGUMAFIL officers took oath and spearheaded the nation celebrate of Culmination ng Buwan ng Wikaon August 30, 2013.

Club Prexy signs MAPEH centre’s extension proposal

MAPEH club president, Sheena Pearl Alinsangan signed a project proposal indorsed by Mrs. Magdalena Legarde, Subject Coordinator on the extension of the said department that amounting Php 13, 000.

The amount was from the fund raising budget of MAPEH the recent year.

The construction kicked off on July 16 and finished last July 25.

SSG spearheads Acquaintance Party

            To showcase talents and foster camaraderie, Supreme Student Government spearheaded Acquaintance party, July 29.

IV- Platinum leads new

morning exercise

Platinum students (Plateens) of Libertad National High School were able to perform an exercise comprising of from head- to- feet steps and lead the studentry recently.

Accompanied by the music “Piliin Mo ang Pilipinas” that promotes country’s tourism,Mrs. Magdalena Legarde, their CAT and MAPEH adviser at the same time has decided that maybe it’s time to change the ‘Morning Hataw’exercise.

Plateens had started to teach the student body with the new exercise last August 21- 23. “Students must execute the stepsproperly. This will serve as their graded practicum in MAPEH subject.”, says Legarde, MAPEH coordinator

The exercise was first performed on August 26.

Surallah marks 50^th Foundation Anniversary

“Bunga sang Pag-ugyon, KauswaganPadayon!”

Inspired by this year’s theme, Surallanhons celebrated home’s 50^th Foundation anniversary on June 19- 22, 2013.

The 3- day festivity kicked off at 7:00 am with a parade that participated by some public and private elementary and secondary schools in Surallah.

Opening ceremony took place at the municipal gymnasium where constituents witnessed the releasing of balloons after Mayor Romulo Solivio Sr. had officially open the celebration.

Surallah edges towards progress

Its escalating economic stability and good governance, the agro industrial town of Surallah is moving gradually towards progress as it gained the 8^th place in10 Most Competitive Municipalities in the Philippines for 2012.

In a competitive index and nationwide ranking released by the National Competitiveness Council (NCC) last July 30, Koronadal City and Surallah of province of South Cotabato were among the list of 10 most competitive cities and 10 most competitive municipalities respectively, the www.southcotabatonews.com reports.

Koronadal City, which is the capital of the Province of South Cotabato and the regional seat for Region 12 is the 6^th Most Competitive City in the country and ranked 2^nd to Quezon City in economic dynamism index.

Meanwhile, in Philippines’ Most Competitive Municipalities: San Francisco, Agusan del Sur got 1^st place; 2^nd- Guagua, Pampanga; 3^rd- Carmona, Cavite; 4^th- Daet, Carmarines Norte; 5^th- General Trias, Cavite; 6^th- Guimba, Nueva Ecija; 7^th- Mexico, Pampanga; 8^th- Surallah, South Cotabato; 9^th- Taytay, Rizal; 10^th- Prosperidad, Agusan del Sur.

There are three indicators used to measure the competitiveness of LGUs. First, the economic dynamism index wherein a municipality/ city were measured for business registration figures; employment, and financial institutions. Second is the government efficiency, and third is infrastructure. #

Chester Ian S. Pineda